Campus Safety & Welfare

Resources for Faculty, Staff and Parents

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*All linked information from the Reaching Out Handbook: Resources for Responding to Students in Distress used with permission from Boise State University's Health Services.

THE GRIEVING STUDENT

When someone suffers a loss, it disrupts their sense of the order of things and can sometimes lead to feelings that life is out of control and meaningless.  People may deal with the death of a parent, sibling, family member, friend, or classmate.  These deaths may be accidental, may be sudden, or may be the result of a long illness.  An entire campus or academic department may grieve the death of a beloved professor or classmate.  Feelings are often compounded by a sense of shock and a longing for the opportunity to "say goodbye."  The loss of meaning and control adds distress to grief.  Regaining meaning and a sense of control may help students endure the grieving process.  Those experiencing grief tend to function better within an already established support system.  Grief is a natural process but may become complicated (e.g., the person may become depressed and not able to function), and therefore needs some type of intervention.

If you are aware that someone is grieving or has experienced a loss, she/he may be experiencing some of the common grief reactions.  These reactions to loss may include:

Physical Reactions

Fatigue/exhaustion
Sleep disturbance
Change in appetite
Headaches

Cognitive Reactions

Difficulties concentrating
Difficulties solving problems
Intrusive thoughts
Preoccupation with the event

Emotional Reactions

Guilt
Feelings of helplessness
Anger/irritability/moodiness
Sense of hopelessness

 

 

HELPFUL ACTIONS

UNHELPFUL ACTIONS

  •  Listen carefully.  This can help a student gain an understanding of her/his feelings and clarify options for dealing with them.
  •  Feeling pressure to "say the right thing" or break silences.  Your supportive and caring presence can be comforting.
  •  Encourage the person to be with, or connect with, family and friends, which may mean taking time away from classes or the university.
  •  Forcing discussion about death and loss.
  •  Be aware that family may be urging the person to stay at school or at work, even though the person longs to be at home (particularly with the death or immiment death of a parent).
  •  Minimizing the loss and be suggestive that one must just move forward.
  •  Encourage the student to talk with someone about her/his feelings, fears, and uncertainties.  Refer the person to Counseling and Psychological Services at 406-994-4531.
  •  Judging the person's response to death, unless it seems extreme or frightening to you, in which case you should consider walking the person to Counseling and Psychological Services or calling University Police at 406-994-2121.

 

If there is immediate risk to life or property, call 911 or University Police at (406) 994-2121.